Grow through what you go through. A lot of people tend to put their true feelings to the side or on the back burner not realizing that one day it will revisit again. I use to be one of those people that just pushed my real feelings aside and found a way to quickly get over what I was feeling. We’ve all done this in unhealthy ways and many of us still do it. How many of your friends do you see drinking or smoking all of the time? Always finding a reason to go out, or always finding a reason to buy something new. I mean if you want to do it because you want to that’s a different story, but if you’re doing it to by pass whatever feelings you are feeling then that’s the story I’m referring to. My quick escape is music and what I’ve found with music is that sometimes it takes you to a different place. Have you ever noticed that some times you hear the words and other times you only hear the beat? I have those random moment when I actually hear every word being said and other times I really just want to hear the beat or vibe of the song. When I say grow though I really mean sit and allow yourself to feel however it is that you want to feel. Learn about yourself in these moment, learn what it is that you do and don’t like about a certain thing. Understand why you feel the way you do and what led up to this feeling. Be honest with yourself about what you feel and go through your problems and not around them. Have you ever found yourself saying damn again to something you just dealt with? Well you probably didn’t finish handling it the first time so it’s back again to teach you the same lesson. A lot of the times we allow ourselves to get stuck in our own thoughts. We overthink about a small situation and internalize those made up scenarios instead of taking everything for exactly what it is. I’m learning not to think why someone did what they did, they know why they did what they did and that’s on them. How I chose to respond to them is solely up to me. “Life is 10% what happens and 90% how you respond”. Keep this in mind before you go reacting to every single thing. When I was younger I was a quick reactor, like a fire cracker. Now that I’m older and this is still a work in progress because people really take me there! I realize when I’m upset I don’t stay upset for very long. I use to be upset for days over tiny things but now I’m over big things in the matter of minutes. I literally just take everything for what it really is. I take peoples words for what they are ” say what you mean and mean what you say”. I take peoples actions for exactly how they are ” if people didn’t want you to speak truthful about them they should have behaved better”. I take situations for what they are, and I understand that what is for me will never pass by. I don’t care how someone meant to say something or what they meant to say all I know is exactly what they said to me. I don’t have time to think about what you meant, I only have time to let you know exactly what I mean. I don’t have time to sit and figure out why you did what you did, you know why you did what you did and you will have to live with that. I know why I did what I did and I have to deal with that. I literally understand that everything that is for me is already mine. What is for me will come to me when I am ready to handle it. What gets taken away from me was never mine to begin with, but I appreciate the lesson that it taught me. Allow yourself to let lessons be lessons, don’t spend too much time overanalyzing every lesson that comes your way. Take time to understand it, but don’t take a lot of time overanalyzing. Deal with your feelings in a healthy way, write out your feelings, tell people how they made you feel, speak up for yourself always. Whatever it is that you are currently battling with, face it head on and allow yourself to feel as deeply as you would like to feel and LET IT GO. I didn’t discuss pain in this blog because I want to do a whole separate one directly on pain.